The differences between men and women have been made famous by author, John Gray, in his book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. The differences between Martians and Venusians are clearly apparent when it comes to a diamond purchase.
Guys, listen closely and we will tell you some secrets that you need to know about Venusians if you want to thrill her with a diamond ring. Venusians are casually interested in diamond quality grades such as color and clarity while Diamond Certificates and Investment value have less meaning. A diamond ring is a gift from the heart with the highest emotional attachment!
When it comes to the diamond, Venusians are interested in three things:
1. Does it look big?
2. Does it sparkle?
3. Does it look big?
We are not necessarily saying Venusians don’t care about quality. But as long as they cannot see any black spots with their naked eye and it does not look yellow, they are not interested in the differences in clarity and color grades, whether it has a certificate, or what store you bought it at.
You need to understand that their emphasis on big size does not mean they are greedy or materialistic. Rather, they view the size of their diamond as a physical sign of your love for her. This becomes very important in the fascinating post-engagement ritual of “let’s compare diamonds.” The very first thing your Venusian will be thinking about after you give her the diamond is, who can she show the ring to? Everyone will be politely saying how beautiful it is while comparing it to their own diamond ring.
One of the most difficult aspects of buying a diamond for a Venusian is the dilemma of trying to make it a surprise and yet making her happy by getting something she absolutely loves. The problem is that you cannot take what your Venusian says literally. If she says “You didn’t have to get me flowers” what she really meant was that she loves the flowers and please keep on surprising me with them. Most Venusians are pleasers and will tell you what they think you want to hear rather than what they really feel.
Venusians are just dying to tell you what size diamond or what kind of mounting they would love, but they fear that would seem too bold, forward, or even just plain greedy. Instead they will make comments like “It doesn’t have to be big” or “I’d be happy with anything you pick out.” Now think about that for a minute. Would you as a Martian like your Venusian to pick out your stereo system, your golf clubs, or your car? An engagement ring is something the Venusian will be wearing every day for years and you want her to be thrilled every time she looks at it. Your goal is to get her the diamond of her dreams, not necessarily what you like.
A word of caution is warranted when casually shopping with your Venusian. By their very nature, Venusians like the sport of shopping. When they walk by a jewelry store in the mall and point to a ring in the window, it does not mean they want that ring on their finger for the rest of their lives. They are pointing out new and unique things, it is you job to be completely clear what shape and size your lady dreams about and make that dream come true!